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"The initial passion of any relationship changes after 18 months," says Sallie Foley, MSW, director of the Center for Sexual Health at the University of Michigan.
She is the author of Modern Love and Sex and Love for Grownups.
"With aging comes an increase in depression and irritability.
Women complain to me -- I was ready to try these things, but I couldn't get my partner to do it." Often, the irritability and crankiness is actually masking anxiety and depression.
If your partner is downright snarly about it, then you've got to stand your ground.
"This isn't the kind of thing in this day and age that people live with," she says.
Schwartz is on the Health Advisory Board at Web MD, and author of several books including Prime: Adventures and Advice about Sex, Love, and the Sensual Years.
But AARP studies show that 65% remain sexually active." Put aside the romanticized, silver-screen notions of sex, Foley says.
"The majority of people your age are having good-enough sex.
She is also director of the Coalition for Marriage, Family, and Couples Education. In a way, you should be smug about it," Solee tells Web MD.
"You have a partner who is not bringing drama into your life.
If you want a sex life, then commit to making it happen, Foley says.